“Behaving like a princess is work. It’s not just about looking beautiful or wearing a crown. It’s more about how you are inside.” – Julie Andrews
Being a Daddy’s girl is difficult to explain. How does a woman become a Daddy’s girl? The situation is really a perplexing one, as a Daddy’s girl is both expected and shunned by society. There will always be the cute fondness from others when they see a girl behaving like a Daddy’s girl provided its in her younger years. As a woman matures however, the traits of a Daddy’s girl turn less desirable. What was once labelled cute becomes bratty or immature. Women who desire a prince charming are told to grow up, or simply stop dreaming. At some point that’s what it really comes down to, a Daddy’s girl is told she’s too old to be Daddy’s little girl anymore.
Behind the mentality of a Daddy’s girl is something much deeper than wanting to believe in fairy tales though. While many may see a Daddy’s girl as unusually innocent, immature, bratty, or entitled, the truth can be much different. When combined with a natural BDSM tendency, Daddy’s girls are often well… complicated. It’s worth noting that to my knowledge, Daddy’s girls have always been seen as submissive in the BDSM community. This remains true, even while some today resent how Daddy’s girls seem to treat their male partners. I know there are exceptions to this, but I feel strongly these exceptions exist outside the BDSM community especially taking into account long term lifestyle choices. These same lifestyle choices often dictate how others see or interpret the behavior of a Daddy’s girl.
At the heart of a Daddy’s girl are the same desires a grown woman feels. Every Daddy’s girl wants to feel safe, valued, loved, and able to achieve their dreams. There might be a playfulness to them that is unique, but I hardly think it’s fair to say a grown woman cannot possess this same attitude regardless of age. At some point, every adult wants to play on the swing set too. Remembering that being a Daddy’s girl only highlights the desires that already exists, we can examine the complexity behind this mentality. Perhaps what’s really complex is not the thoughts or behaviors, but rather the average experience a Daddy’s girl faces throughout her life.
To start, a Daddy’s girl will grow up relatively without notice of being different. After all, little girls are expected to love and admire their fathers. Little girls can wear their hair in pigtails, dress in the frilliest of clothing, and worship the ground her father walks on, all without the suspicion of others ever being raised. In time a Daddy’s girl will grow up to incorporate her tastes into more adult avenues, also without notice. Sooner or later though, a Daddy’s girl will have to face the dating world. This is where things really do change for a Daddy’s girl, as she begins to notice how different her desires are from other girls.
At first, a Daddy’s girl will be told its cute to think of her father as her prince charming. How many times are women told they seek out men like their fathers? Somehow, this idea remains in the minds of others without incident or issue. Still, after a certain point, a Daddy’s girl is no longer able to say such a thing. A Daddy’s girl will grow up to discover that one day her prince charming is expected to be someone like her father, but yet completely different. To a girl who has idolized her father, this presents a world of problems. After all, prince charming is supposed to find the princess on his own. How many women actually find a husband this way? Anyone?
This “prince charming” issue is really the first thing a Daddy’s girl will notice. From that point forward she’ll be told she has Daddy issues, often this lasts the rest of her life. Part of the major issue behind this stage in a Daddy’s girl life is the fact she cannot date the men who will make her happy long term. Some Daddy’s girl are mature enough to notice this early on, and they find their dating world shattered. For a girl who wants to be considered normal or accepted by others, being a Daddy’s girl presents too many problems. To a Daddy’s girl, the ideal man is older, usually her father’s own age, and that is where all the problems are. This natural attraction to older men is well… creepy to her peers and unaccepted by society.
What motivates a Daddy’s girl desire for an older man will depend on the particular Daddy’s girl. However, I suspect a few of the common reasons will surprise a majority of people on the outside of this BDSM lifestyle. For starters, I feel many Daddy’s girl desire the comfort and protection they feel is provided by an older man or one their father’s age. Consider also, the probability of a Daddy’s girl having anything in common with boys her own age. If a Daddy’s girl has spent her entire life hanging onto her Daddy’s pant leg, odds are she’s quite mature for her age. This means, a Daddy’s girl will often find boys her age immature, unable to carry an interesting conversation, and even lack ambition. Whatever the case might be, a Daddy’s girl often doesn’t recognize any of these factors in her sexual identity.
Ironic as it may seem, a Daddy’s girl will often have no idea she’s also a sexual Daddy’s girl. Never do people mention the existence of a submissive Daddy’s girl. This discovery is often an occasion to be celebrated, though it might not always be applied right away. BDSM can seem frightening to a Daddy’s girl, especially one in her early twenties. Prince charming was never depicted holding a whip, and often neither does a Daddy’s girl own idea of the perfect man. The problem with BDSM is it is an all encompassing label, and because of this there are many different areas in which Daddy’s girls find themselves able to thrive.
For example, a bratty Daddy’s girl may very well look forward to her Daddy holding that whip. Many women enjoy the idea of being punished like a little girl, though some do not. A princess Daddy’s girl will often want to explore her often conflicting desire for more feminine hobbies and traits. In general, a Daddy’s girl might not even be aware of her true motivations. This means a Daddy’s girl can shift between a bratty stage and that of a princess. At the core though, there is often the need to be valued, protected, and sheltered. Daddy’s girl do not desire to be dependent on their partner or Master, it’s a trait they naturally possess.
Daddy’s girls are naturally complex, and that presents a world of problems. As much as these problems might seem difficult to the women, they’re often savored by the Daddy figures in their lives. At some point, a woman will stop caring about the opinions of others. To a submissive Daddy’s girl, all that matters is the safety and comfort she feels when Daddy holds her. Outsiders can judge a Daddy’s girl playful attitude, naive approach to life, or criticize her hairstyle, but Daddy will always be there at the center of his little girl’s world. For some, that’s all that really matters. There’s nothing complex at the end of the day, as long as Daddy’s there for his little girl to snuggle with and yes, disclose her most intimate thoughts to.